Average statistical mother thinks that her baby differ from other
children only with the quantity of little wrinkles of his wrists, habit
not to sleep at night and scream deafeningly in day. Children, who
sleep like tops and do not yell, only squeal quietly sometimes, become
the object of general jealous envy. However, it is not always good when a
baby sleeps a lot, and it is not always bad when he screams boldly.
Dear parents, remember: during the first year of life, a base of
character and destiny of a future adult person are forming. So, it is
very important to observe your baby's development.
Notice!
There
is a whole section of psychology and a considerable area of
psychoanalysis, which are devoted exceptionally to peculiarities of
infantile age. Experts advise to pay attention to the following moments
in your baby's behavior.
1. The way he cries
Weeping is a
universal method to inform about baby's needs, express his feelings,
gain a desired goal and... ventilate his respiratory tract. A strength
of crying depends on a baby's character, his psychic state and physical
development. The bigger a baby's volume of lungs is, the louder his cry
is. Prematurely born babies, for example, do not cry at all, just squeak
quietly, like kittens.
2. The way he sleeps
Pay attention
at your baby's duration of sleep, the way he falls asleep and behaves
while awaking.
During day and night sleep, children gain strength and
grow. During sleep, neurons of long-term memory fix all day impressions
and process received information. Duration and character of sleep show a
baby's temperament.
1. Strong and well-balanced sanguine persons sleep little and well.
2. Strong, irrepressible choleric subjects sleep little and bad.
3. Calm and sluggish phlegmatic persons sleep much and well.
4. Sensitive and delicate children with a weak type of nervous system sleep much and uneasily.
3. What or who he prefers to look at
This
can be some animate object: mother, father, some strange person; or
inanimate object: magazine cover, toy, play of light and shadow on a
wall. TV set, showing some movie, is an equivalent of a human being.
Sociable or very emotional children prefer to look at people.
Secluded from birth ones fix their look at some objects and nature.
4. What he likes to play with
The
one who likes toys usually thinks in a more standard way, than the one
who is reaching for forbidden spectacles or mobile phone.
Typology of babies
"Leader"
He
cries emphatically and loudly. He falls silent as soon as he receives
the desired. He always strives for his goal: if he is hungry, you will
not be able to distract him with a rattle, and if he wants to be taken
in hands, he will be shouting till he is taken in hands. He falls asleep
late, sleeps well, but little. He has an in-born talent to train his
parents: as soon as he receives the desired, he becomes sweet like an
angel, blinks sweetly, and mother with father are just ready to do
everything to see this mildest expression on their baby's chubby little
face. A future leader begins smiling early and fixes his sight not on
some objects, but on his relatives, on which his well-being depends. He
likes company, but hates being holding for a long.
What he needs
He
needs a careful and firm attitude. On no account break his
individuality. Parents should encourage a baby's good behavior, but not
letting him push himself around or letting him tearing a book to pieces
or throwing a toy away.
And who he will become then
Purposeful, decisive, persistent and active.
If everything goes wrong way
Strict
and severe parents, suppressing independence of a future leader, will
form a lonely wolf-cub or a broken and passive unlucky person. Too
tender and permitting everything parents will receive a high-quality
home tyrant.
"A closed book"
He is quiet and comfortable in
exploitation. He seldom cries, only in case of real physical need of
hunger, thirst or pains in stomach. He is sleeping almost always. Sleep
for him is often an equivalent of heart-rending crying: not receiving
the desired, he gets away from, hoping that while he is sleeping, the
situation will change. After awaking, he is lying quietly for a long, he
is interested in himself. He does not require from parents to stay with
him all the time. Since birth, a world of objects attracts him more,
than a world of people. He can smile to a bright vase or a swinging
branch, looking through the window. He treats all people with equal
indifference, is not afraid of anybody, sits like a sack of flour in all
adults' hands, obedient and inert. He early chooses one person from his
people, as his emotional canal of connection with the world, and often
this person is not his mother.
What he needs
You should
treat him respectfully, not intruding into his inner world with kisses
and loud games. A mother should observe his peace, a father should
explain things to him and protect him. It is good to introduce him many
different people for communication, so that he could choose a friend to
his liking. Mother should not be jealous of him because of a nanny or
granny. He loves mother more, but feels easier with someone else.
And who he will become then
Original
and deep thinker, engineer or mathematician, chemist or programmer.
While having troubles, he will always shrink into his shell.
If everything goes wrong way
An
importunate mother-sitting hen, taking care of his each step, will turn
him into a secluded paranoiac. An indifferent one will grow a dullish
loser or misanthrope of him. A strict and "birching" mother will receive
a cruel egoist, not able to compassionate others' distress. A callous
and emotionless one will grow a queer fish.
"Fragile like glass"
He
often cries, calms down slowly, hiccups, sighs and whimpers. Sleeps
long, but always bad, awakes routinely and requires being hold and
lulled. He cannot stay alone even for a moment, he is glad to company.
Physical closeness to mother and father calms him down. Sometimes he
cannot bear bright light, loud sounds, what shows his especially
delicate nervous system. He carefully selects his people, some he may
ask to hold him, others he can push away. What is interesting, very
often it turns out that he does not like people who conceal some hostile
intentions towards his relatives.
What he needs
He requires
double care, than other children. Adults always should respond to his
crying. It is impossible to spoil or pet him: the more warmth he
receives from people, the more stable and strong-willed he will become
in future.
And who he will become then
A boy will turn into a
dream of all women - a strong and tender man. A girl will charm
everybody with her amenable, kind and stable character.
If everything goes wrong way
If
you start showing tenacity, thinking that a baby will cry and stop, you
will grow a nervous, always offended and malicious adult person. If you
start scolding and punishing a child, you will form a shy and passive
person of him. And you will have to patronize him during his whole life.
"A creative personality"
He
hates sleeping, as sleep stops his activity on learning and creative
transformation of the world. He does not cry, groan or coo after
awakening, in order to attract adults' attention and make them come. He
smiles to parents gladly, likes different odd objects more than plain
toys. He begins to take to pieces objects surrounding him earlier, than
he starts talking. He prefers communication at distance: tale, singing
or presence near him to physical caress. He calms down because of words,
not touches. He laughs and gesticulates to attract other people's
attention to some object to his liking. By the age of 1, he starts
showing monstrous obstinacy - give or show this to him.
What he needs
You need to talk and explain everything to him, not thinking whether he understands a lot.
And who he will become then
Gifted, curious, life-loving, quick-tempered and passionate.
If everything goes wrong way
If
you suppress sharply his attempts to reach and learn, try to slap, then
depressed inquisitiveness will turn into aggressiveness. By school age,
a child will turn into an uncontrollable hooligan with poor progress.
"Delicate like mimosa"
He
cries with a thin, whining voice and falls silent quickly. Such baby
has no powers to have his will, shout until he is heard, and, after 10
minutes of groaning, he disappears in nonentity because of hopeless
despair and sleeps round the clock, as if he is under anaesthetic, while
his mother is boasting of her wonderful quiet child to her friends. He
begins smiling late, freezes in mother's or father's hugs in perfect
bliss, and often his parents take him for a "closed book" and leave him
alone. However, a "delicate" baby is not interested in objects, nature
and his own ideas of world. Instead of playing with a rattle or pyramid,
he examines his hands, reaches for a mirror and TV set. He needs
people. He is shy and does not have persevering seduction of a "leader"
or hysterical obstinacy of a creative personality, does not shrink into
his shell till better times, like a "closed book" does, and does not win
over adults displaying them boisterous love, like a "fragile" baby
does. He is more helpless, than other children, incredibly sensitive,
shy; he suffers and stops in development without adults' attention.
What he needs
He
needs a lot of external manifestation of love, touches, constant
presence in his field of vision. A mother should think well about who
will stay with a baby, if she decides to go back working.
And who he will become then
They can become extremely talented musicians, designers, teachers, brave defenders of all weak and miserable.
If everything goes wrong way
Even
loving parents, but not realizing the whole degree of delicacy of a
child's nature, can suppress a baby's talents and contribute to his
change into sickly hypochondriac or a clumsy with zero self-appraisal.
Your baby is afraid of nobody and agrees to go to all strange people's hands
The
first variant, age one: probably, your baby is still too little.
Children start reacting to their and strange people since 6-8 months.
The second variant: a baby is so used to bathe in kindness and
attention of other people, that he loves everybody. However, he loves
more his people all the same, and, being in strange people's hands, he
fidgets and searches for parents.
The third variant, sad one: he has so little love and attention of
adults that he is ready to reach for everyone who will smile to him. A
baby does not distinguish his people from strange ones. This is a state,
typical for babies from boarding school.
The way to understand that a baby feels stress, not just plays up
1. He is crying all the time, round the clock.
2. His character of sleep has changed suddenly, he sleeps either less, or much more, or worse now.
3.
He stops doing what he could, does not smile anymore, does not want to
hold head, sit or seize rattle, play hide-and-seek or stand on feet.
4. He does not smile and laugh.
5. He refuses eating.
6. Disposition appears on his body.
If your baby has although one of these suspicious symptoms, show him to podiatrist.
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