Your Attitude To Parenting
Parenting is not an exact
science. However right the decision to have a child may seem at the
time, it may be helpful to ask your selves the following questions. If
you answer yes to more than five, you may need to think about your
attitude to parenting:
Do you already have ambitions for your children's future?
Are you uncertain about how parental actions affect children?
Do you still need to work out some of your views on parenting?
Do you think that after the birth, instinct will take over and you'll know exactly how to be have toward your child?
Are you worried that you and your partner have different ideas about parenting?
Do you believe in a strict routine for a new born baby?
Do you think a baby would benefit from such a routine?
Can a young baby be spoiled?
Do you believe that babies cry for no reason?
Will you leave investigating child care until after the birth?
Are your views on baby care at odds with those of your partner?
Will you find it hard to tolerate all the disorder of a new baby?
Do you foresee any conflict with family members about the way you intend to care for your baby?
It's
rare for a couple to feel that everything is just right and that the
perfect moment has arrived to have a child, but now that we have control
over our fertility, it gives time for all the options to be considered
carefully.
Making The Decision
For many people, finances and
accommodation may be the most pressing issues when making the decision
whether to become parents. Others may look at their personal freedom,
and how having a child may affect it. In today's society, where more and
more women are finding satisfaction in the progress of their careers,
making the decision to break off and have a child can be extraordinarily
difficult. Although many companies and countries are providing improved
maternity leave and benefits, this may not compensate for the fact that
having a baby could delay your career prospects, especially if you want
to spend more than a few months at home with your baby. This is one
reason why many women, particularly those with satisfying or high
powered jobs, are waiting to start a family at least until their
thirties, when they feel that they've reached a level of achievement
that enables them to stand back from their careers with confidence.
Making Space For Parenthood
Men
also need to think about how their work commitments may impact on their
relationship with their children. Many older men who become parents for
a second time in a new relationship have acknowledged that they
regretted having missed out on their first family's childhood because
pressures of work effectively separated them from their children. Child
hood passes quickly and you only have one chance with any child, so
think about how much time you will be able to give to her.
Practical Consideration
You
can bring up a child in anything from a two room apartment on up ward
if there's a separate space for the baby, that's ideal. If you're
thinking of moving in to a larger home to accommodate future children,
try to move be fore you become pregnant; other wise, it's best to wait
until after your baby is born. You don't want the double pressure of a
new baby and moving. No one pretends there isn't a financial implication
in parenthood, but the cost of having a baby is largely dependent on
what a couple sees as essential. Rest assured that no baby in a second
hand crib with one or two loving parents ever lay awake wondering why
she didn't have an expensive new crib with Brahms' lullaby wafting from
the attached electronic musical box. Never the less, it makes sense to
make the best of what's available. Look at your likely in come and
expenditure once the baby is born, taking account of any benefits and
plan accordingly. When ever your purse allows you to shop, invest in the
basic minimum leave luxuries until you can really afford them.
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